When we look for ways to improve our situation, it is rarely, if ever, because of a broken washing machine or a smashed window; it’s normally far less superficial than that. We seek help or assistance when we feel that life is causing us enough emotional and mental torture; especially when displeasure or distress seems to have become a constant companion.
Even when, (or if), we get to experience a significant period of something like peace of mind, there are always more and new things to learn.
If we’re curious enough to practice a bit of self-discovery each day, we begin to grow, and we change. As we learn and grow, we might discover new truths about how life works and our own part in the grand scheme of things. We discover universal truths, like why ‘honesty is a virtue’ or why truth sets us free, and we discover, with a watchful eye, certain aspects about our own character that we never noticed before. However, this is not about bad people becoming good; it’s about wellness and returning to mental and emotional health.
As I’ve mentioned in some of my Facebook live broadcasts, in our group and on my page, it has always looked, to us humans, like life happens to us, when in fact life happens in us. In other words, it looks as if other people and situations are to blame for the way we feel, when in fact the feelings exist only on the inside. When we concentrate on the part we play, (or have played), in our daily dealings and relations with others, especially when we feel, or have felt, emotional or mental discomfort, it becomes possible to recognise our own questionable habits and behaviours – the ones that we ourselves are unhappy with, not others.
When we take the time to sit down and look over our past, with the guidance of someone like a coach, for the purpose of self-discovery, it can be much easier to identify emotional, mental, and behavioural patterns that we might wish to change to benefit ourselves, (primarily), and others.
Some people discover issues with anger that they hadn’t previously noticed, others discover patterns of arrogance or false pride, still others recognise tendencies towards excessive worry. Actually, the list is endless, but nothing changes for us until we ourselves recognise a need for change.
Our so-called problems are never really down to any situation. We only view our situations as problems because of the way we think and feel about them. This happens inside us. This is why two or more people can experience exactly the same scenario and all will respond differently.
What all of this means is that there is an enormous sense of freedom and empowerment in taking a look at ourselves rather than always pointing the finger at life and dwelling on the unfairness and perilous nature of it all.
If we are willing and able to learn about our own inner workings and to keep an open mind, life itself will always offer us new lessons. Our part is to recognise the lessons and to utilise them for the benefit of ourselves, those around us, and the wider community.